Getting Your Needs Satisfied as a BDSM Dom

Becoming a BDSM dom may be a dream for a lot of men and women, but it is easy to become a fake dom and assume you are doing it right. This lifestyle involves a lot of giving and taking. A good Dom is able to take control and be in the lead, while still listening to the rules that their sub puts in place.

Being a dom does not mean you get to be abusive or only do all the demanding without any thought of what the other person wants. If you go into this relationship thinking that the other person is just there to serve you, then you are not going to be able to keep a sub for very long. Their feelings and wants need to be considered too.

The good news is that the sub often needs to be used and abused by their dom in order to feel sexually satisfied. This gives you a lot of freedom to do a lot of the things you want in bed, many tasks that other sexual partners will not even consider. This can make sex more enjoyable for someone who likes to be in control, both in sex and in other parts of their lives as well.

As a dom, you want to be someone who is powerful, someone who is always in charge. They crave obedience and they need to be in control when it comes to their sub. This type of relationship is shown in the wording. Dom is often with a capital letter while the sub is in lowercase.

Doms are not perfect and sometimes, in their pursuit of sexual satisfaction and control, they may mess up with their sub. It is important for them to admit that they did something wrong and what they can do to make it better. Do not lose your temper; keep things in control the whole time so both partners can enjoy it.

There are different ways that a Dom is able to maintain their control while also being respectful for their sub. Some of the ways that they can do it is to: